It’s taboo to admit that you’re lonely. You can make jokes about it, of course. You can tell people that you spend most of your time with Netflix or that you haven’t left the house today and you might not even go outside tomorrow. Ha ha, funny. But rarely do you ever tell people about the true depths of your loneliness, about how you feel more and more alienated from your friends each passing day and you’re not sure how to fix it. It seems like everyone is just better at living than you are.
A part of you knew this was going to happen. Growing up, you just had this feeling that you wouldn’t transition well to adult life, that you’d fall right through the cracks. And look at you now. La di da, it’s happening.
Your mother, your father, your grandparents: they all look at you like you’re some prized jewel and they tell you over and over again just how lucky you are to be young and have your whole life ahead of you. “Getting old ain’t for sissies,” your father tells you wearily.
You wish they’d stop saying these things to you because all it does is fill you with guilt and panic. All it does is remind you of how much you’re not taking advantage of your youth.
You want to kiss all kinds of different people, you want to wake up in a stranger’s bed maybe once or twice just to see if it feels good to feel nothing, you want to have a group of friends that feels like a tribe, a bonafide family. You want to go from one place to the next constantly and have your weekends feel like one long epic day. You want to dance to stupid music in your stupid room and have a nice job that doesn’t get in the way of living your life too much. You want to be less scared, less anxious, and more willing. Because if you’re closed off now, you can only imagine what you’ll be like later.
Every day you vow to change some aspect of your life and every day you fail. At this point, you’re starting to question your own power as a human being. As of right now, your fears have you beat. They’re the ones that are holding your twenties hostage.
Stop thinking that everyone is having more sex than you, that everyone has more friends than you, that everyone out is having more fun than you. Not because it’s not true (it might be!) but because that kind of thinking leaves you frozen. You’ve already spent enough time feeling like you’re stuck, like you’re watching your life fall through you like a fast dissolve and you’re unable to hold on to anything.
I don’t know if you ever get better. I don’t know if a person can just wake up one day and decide to be an active participant in their life. I’d like to think so. I’d like to think that people get better each and every day but that’s not really true. People get worse and it’s their stories that end up getting forgotten because we can’t stand an unhappy ending. The sick have to get better. Our normalcy depends upon it.
You have to value yourself. You have to want great things for your life. This sort of shit doesn’t happen overnight but it can and will happen if you want it.
Do you want it bad enough? Does the fear of being filled with regret in your thirties trump your fear of living today?
We shall see."
You’re Not Making The Most Of Your 20s, Ryan O’Connell
This is flawless. I can’t even remember where I read this first, but it’s perfect.
That’s what recovery is aiming towards. Flexibility. We can become so rigid, so overcome with our EDs that we forget what it is, to be flexible and relaxed around food and our bodies.
The cool club :)
Sorry to keep bombing your dashes with these food guides, but THIS one is great! These are all the variations of sugar and their names and sneaky ways sugar is really in your food without you really knowing it because of the names! This “Sneaky Sugars - Practice your Label Reading” is from the Paleo website: http://whole9life.com/. Again, I don’t and you don’t have to eat Paleo to be healthy, but these guides are really helpful!
“A piece of fruit never made anyone fat.” Thank you! So sick of diets that won’t allow you to eat the beautiful, healthy, natural food God put on this earth. Gimme a break. Just show some self control and don’t eat a pound of grapes at a time, ok? ;)
Greapeseed oil: Grape Seed Extract and its oil is derived from the seeds of a grape. Due to their nutritional and medicinal properties grapes, their seeds, and leaves have been used in many home remedies for centuries.
Walnut oil: Walnuts and walnut oil are rich in antioxidants and are one of the best antioxidant sources among the tree nuts.
Avocado Oil: Avocado oil is of of the few oils not pressed from oil-rich seeds but from the flesh of the fruit of the avocado tree
Coconut Oil: The health benefits of coconut oil include hair care, skin care, stress relief, maintaining cholesterol levels, weight loss, increased immunity, proper digestion and metabolism, relief from kidney problems, heart diseases, high blood pressure, diabetes, HIV and cancer, dental care, and bone strength.
Olive Oil: In addition to bolstering the immune system and helping to protect against viruses, olive oil has also been found to be effective in fighting against diseases such as: Cancer,Heart Disease, Stress, Blood Pressure,Diabetes,Obesity,Arthritis and Osteoporosis
Hemp seed oil: Hemp seed and oil has been called “Nature’s Perfect Food for Humanity”
Flax seed oil: Flax Seed Oil is derived from flax seeds, flax seeds are an excellent source of Omega-9 and Omega-3 essential fatty acids. They are also a very good source of dietary fiber and protein, as well as manganese, folate, Vitamin B6, magnesium, phosphorous, lecithin, zinc, and copper. In addition, flax seeds are concentrated in lignan, which has been shown to fight both breast cancer and colon cancer.
Brazil Nut Oil: Brazil Nut Oil is also one of the best sources of selenium around Least Healthy
Palm oil: This oil is generally found in processed foods and contains a high ratio of saturated fat. Studies show it may raise the risk of heart disease and spike cholesterol levels.
Cottonseed oil: Cottonseed oil is so toxic that it is often used as a pesticide
Vegetable and soybean oil: Hydrogenated oils and fats are extra-saturated and can increase “bad” LDL cholesterol and decrease “good” HDLcholesterol.
They’re typically found in processed foods and snack items with a longer shelf-life.
Corn oil: Corn Oil’s polyunsaturated acids are the prime requirements for cancer growth. Long-term corn oil use is associated with colon cancers because it inhibits an enzyme used to prevent cancer growth.
Further, Japanese researchers have found that long-term use of corn oil and other corn products increases mortality rates and esophageal cancers.
Canola oil: Canola oil comes from genetically engineered rapeseed. Rapeseed is easy to produce because it is so toxic not even insects want it. It was originally used as a lubricant for machinery in small industries. It has been proven to cause lung cancer and heart disease. It was originally used in Europe in farm animal feeds. These animals went blind, began exhibiting various diseases, and finally went mad and began attacking people.
Sunflower oil and Safflower oil: Vegetable Oils and their fats should be avoided completely. There are much healthier alternatives and there is no reason or need to consume these types of fats.